Do you ever feel overwhelmed with your life or your work? Are you suffering from "burn out" or just feeling that you have nothing left to give the people in your life who seem to be needing so much from you? I think that this is a very real and problematic space that tends to be occupied by teachers of all kinds, especially those in the fitness and bodywork industry. We all want to do our best to help the individuals in our lives who are looking to us for guidance. The question, in my mind, is how to offer our very best selves without compromising our own emotional limitations.
This has been a very real conversation in my life of late and my response to this process has been to practice expanding my container for love. I am not suggesting that we need to love everyone all the time but instead that if we can expand our capacity for love within ourselves then we will, in turn, have more love to give away. What I am speaking of is not a romantic kind of love but instead a process of expanding our tolerance, compassion and empathy for those whom we come into contact with and, in doing so, be able to treat problematic situations with kindness and grace. So, the question is, how does one go about this?
I am practicing really listening, making eye contact and being very present with the people I am sharing space with. Not only in my work arena but also with my personal relationships. If one lets themselves be open to internal as well as external dialogues there is perhaps more room for compassion and ease in situations which can sometimes feel stagnant. I have found that by being truly open and present, no matter how challenging this feels sometimes, I allow myself to exist in a space where there is less emotional limitation, less irritation and more room for growth both in myself and in my relationships.
This is a project that takes time and patience but as it unfolds it seems that I am able to connect more deeply with the people I care about as well those who are looking to me for help and it feels good.
AUTHOR: Meredith Rogers
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